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(You Might As Well Be) Wearing A Fanny Pack To Networking Events

If you are looking for a good way to show a little ignorance.  To demonstrate that you are either really new to networking or are absolutely unaware of the right things to do.  The things to bring.  The traits to exemplify. This post is for you.

Why the fanny pack example?  Well, it’s just such a great icon from the past.  And, yes, I’ve owned one.  I’ll admit it.

And I am here to help.  First I’ll hit you with the 2 x 4.  Then I’ll pick you up and carry you over to a soft and cozy couch.  Ready?

So here they are.  5 signs that you might as well be wearing a fanny pack to networking events:

You hand a business card to everyone you meet.  Then ask for one of theirs and move on.

Networking is not about collecting the most business cards.  It is about relationships.  Especially when you have a chance to meet people in person.  To utilize your skills in relational intelligence.  The idea of collecting business cards, stuffing them in your Rolodex or scanning them into your computer and mass e-mailing all your new “contacts”.  It doesn’t work that way.  Expectations have changed.  And so must you.

You show up at a business casual event with a full business suit . . . and act like a business person

It used to be that the best dressed got all the attention.  And while looking nice is important, you can throw people off by over-dressing.  Just the way you can by wearing a “members only” jacket and jeans.  Too casual or too formal makes it harder for people to feel comfortable with you.  If you are too formal, people won’t want to network with you.  They will be nervous about how a coffee meeting will go.

You get your needs covered first.  And, if there’s time, you see what others need

There’s a lot of great conversation out there re: pay it forward or selfless networking.  As there should be.  It is critical.  With so many out of work, your ability to be seen as a conscious and helpful networker, can make or break you out there.  In fact, to set the tone, consider trying this: take a productive day off. A day off from focusing on your self.

You bring a 3 page resume with the hopes that you can corner a recruiter or hiring manager

And if you include an old-fashioned objective, you are taking “fanny pack” even further.  Can you say “leather” fanny pack?  Don’t take up space on your resume with a personal objective.  But, in terms of the resume, don’t bring it.  Instead, bring a one page summary and a networking business card.  And make sure each includes your specific job search objectives.  So your new friends have tangible information as to how they can help.

Tell people about how connected you are . . . then don’t share those contacts

It’s great how many people you know.  And how great that you let everyone know about those wonderful connections.  But the second someone asks for a connection, you say: “Sorry, I can’t.  Those are really valuable contacts!”  And so (potentially) was the person who you just pushed away.  We all have contacts we cherish.  And some, perhaps, that we are careful to share.  But don’t try to look like a “big dog” unless you are willing to let someone in.

So, there you have it.  Did you raise your hand on one of those?  Be honest.

And if you own a fanny pack, please don’t be offended.  But it really is a great item for the next charity garage sale.

Anyone else have a fanny pack example?

About the Author:

Tim Tyrell-Smith is the creator of Tim's Strategy, a ground-breaking online job search and career strategy tool. As a blogger, Tim has been a regular contributor to U.S. News and World Report, was featured in USA Today, interviewed twice on NPR and is the author of two career books (“30 Ideas” and “HeadStrong”). Become a fan at http://facebook.com/TimsStrategy and follow on Twitter (@TimsStrategy). He lives with his wife and three kids in Mission Viejo, California.

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  • http://jamieFavreau.wordpress.com Jamei Favreau

    I have to say I agree with everything you have said. The power of networking is in the relationships you build. I know I am working at a fun place but DOES NOT pay anything but there is a lot of people I come in contact with everyday and I am working towards connecting with them. I usher in a sports arena so I see my season ticket holders all the time. So I am using this to broaden my horizons and they are looking for more connections for me. Which is really interesting.

    The problem is when you are desperate you are trying to do things and only think about you. It is when you move off of that mindset you meet great people and they can change your life. You just need to stop looking and appreciate everything.

    • http://www.timsstrategy.com Tim

      Hi Jamie – Even though your current job isn’t a paid one, I agree with your view of its benefits. It also keeps you busy, and keeps your mind focused when you are not looking for your next permanent job (less desperate). I appreciate your sticking with me on the change to Tim’s Strategy!

  • http://jamieFavreau.wordpress.com Jamei Favreau

    I have to say I agree with everything you have said. The power of networking is in the relationships you build. I know I am working at a fun place but DOES NOT pay anything but there is a lot of people I come in contact with everyday and I am working towards connecting with them. I usher in a sports arena so I see my season ticket holders all the time. So I am using this to broaden my horizons and they are looking for more connections for me. Which is really interesting.

    The problem is when you are desperate you are trying to do things and only think about you. It is when you move off of that mindset you meet great people and they can change your life. You just need to stop looking and appreciate everything.

    • http://www.timsstrategy.com Tim

      Hi Jamie – Even though your current job isn’t a paid one, I agree with your view of its benefits. It also keeps you busy, and keeps your mind focused when you are not looking for your next permanent job (less desperate). I appreciate your sticking with me on the change to Tim’s Strategy!

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  • http://www.stevenpofcher@aol.com Steven Pofcher

    How about those folks, who while shaking your hand and talking with you, give you no eye contact because they are busy looking around the room for who else is there!

    • http://www.timsstrategy.com Tim

      Hey Steven – Yes, that feels pretty lousy when someone does that. Good one. And you can just seeing the wheels turning as as someone begins to think that they are done with you. Only defense here is if someone is taking up too much time. I always encourage people to target 5 minutes with each person. Too much time with one person and you will miss out on meeting a lot of great people!

  • http://www.timsstrategy.com Tim

    Hey Steven – Yes, that feels pretty lousy when someone does that. Good one. And you can just seeing the wheels turning as as someone begins to think that they are done with you. Only defense here is if someone is taking up too much time. I always encourage people to target 5 minutes with each person. Too much time with one person and you will miss out on meeting a lot of great people!

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  • Susan Gibson

    Thanks for the humor and truisms. Next week I am going to a networking event and will keep in mind these tidbits. It will be fun to see how many I am guilty of. I do love the part about helping other people. I found that when I help someone else, the universe helps me in some way.

    • http://www.timsstrategy.com Tim

      Yes – I agree that when you help others that you are loved back. We all need reminders now and again to keep the right perspective. Good luck at the upcoming event!

  • Susan Gibson

    Thanks for the humor and truisms. Next week I am going to a networking event and will keep in mind these tidbits. It will be fun to see how many I am guilty of. I do love the part about helping other people. I found that when I help someone else, the universe helps me in some way.

    • http://www.timsstrategy.com Tim

      Yes – I agree that when you help others that you are loved back. We all need reminders now and again to keep the right perspective. Good luck at the upcoming event!

  • http://www.pixelhappy.net Catherine

    I agree, especially with not robotically collecting a lot of business cards and then just stashing them somewhere. And you can’t be too hyper focused on your goal, like the dog in the “Snausages” commercial! It also depends on the mixer. Some are more socially oriented (people congregating because they are in the same industry and just want to have fun, versus networking for a purpose). You have to tailor your behavior to the occasion. I just use my normal social skills to guide me as to how long to talk to someone. Sometimes it is useful to have someone’s card even if I don’t need their skills or services at that point, because I or someone I know might need them in the future. And it is always important to remember to help others as well. I would summarize it by saying that you should be pleasant, have a good time and not put any expectations on the event, and let things unfold naturally.

    • http://www.timsstrategy.com Tim

      Hi Catherine – OK, I’ve been trying to get the “Snausages” dog out of my mind. Nope, still there! I like your thoughts about letting the event unfold and I think you are right that some occasions warrant a different approach. Thanks!

  • http://www.pixelhappy.net Catherine

    I agree, especially with not robotically collecting a lot of business cards and then just stashing them somewhere. And you can’t be too hyper focused on your goal, like the dog in the “Snausages” commercial! It also depends on the mixer. Some are more socially oriented (people congregating because they are in the same industry and just want to have fun, versus networking for a purpose). You have to tailor your behavior to the occasion. I just use my normal social skills to guide me as to how long to talk to someone. Sometimes it is useful to have someone’s card even if I don’t need their skills or services at that point, because I or someone I know might need them in the future. And it is always important to remember to help others as well. I would summarize it by saying that you should be pleasant, have a good time and not put any expectations on the event, and let things unfold naturally.

    • http://www.timsstrategy.com Tim

      Hi Catherine – OK, I’ve been trying to get the “Snausages” dog out of my mind. Nope, still there! I like your thoughts about letting the event unfold and I think you are right that some occasions warrant a different approach. Thanks!

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  • http://www.careerleadershipcoaching.com Kris Parfitt

    Hello Tim, loved your post. It’s topic near and dear to my heart – who we are being makes an impact on how we are received. I like your examples and would like to use them in my coaching. I wrote a similar article not too long ago that touches this same topic, and I would very much like to combine our thoughts to help people network in a way that they a) create impactful and authentic relationships; b) be seen as an inspiration and resource; and c) get noticed/hired/promoted/clients, etc.
    http://www.careerealism.com/5-ways-to-beat-the-ugly-networking-stigma/

    Love your blog too! Keep it coming, you’re making a big difference.

    • http://www.timsstrategy.com Tim

      Hi Kris – Thanks for that feedback! Appreciate your adding the link to your post here. Maybe if people read multiple posts in this area they’ll start to get it!

  • http://www.careerleadershipcoaching.com Kris Parfitt

    Hello Tim, loved your post. It’s topic near and dear to my heart – who we are being makes an impact on how we are received. I like your examples and would like to use them in my coaching. I wrote a similar article not too long ago that touches this same topic, and I would very much like to combine our thoughts to help people network in a way that they a) create impactful and authentic relationships; b) be seen as an inspiration and resource; and c) get noticed/hired/promoted/clients, etc.
    http://www.careerealism.com/5-ways-to-beat-the-ugly-networking-stigma/

    Love your blog too! Keep it coming, you’re making a big difference.

    • http://www.timsstrategy.com Tim

      Hi Kris – Thanks for that feedback! Appreciate your adding the link to your post here. Maybe if people read multiple posts in this area they’ll start to get it!

  • http://www.energycostcutters.com Rob

    When working a networking event I am there to find out as much about others as I can. When I run across those people who are not self absorbed and truly interested in what I do, I make it a point to follow up with them after the event. Coffee, lunch or another event, does not matter, I pursue a relationship with them until we are comfortable enough to refer business back and forth. I cannot tell you how valuable you become when you do that. It takes some time and effort, but the rewards are there.

    • http://www.timsstrategy.com Tim

      Hey Rob – I hear those sentiments from a lot of people. That if a person is not ready to network in an authentic way, they will be found out and just won’t get the time of day. Bummer but I understand that reaction. When we have time, though, perhaps each of us can slow down and walk up to that someone and say: “Hey (name on name tag), here’s how it works. Wanna try that again?”

  • http://www.energycostcutters.com Rob

    When working a networking event I am there to find out as much about others as I can. When I run across those people who are not self absorbed and truly interested in what I do, I make it a point to follow up with them after the event. Coffee, lunch or another event, does not matter, I pursue a relationship with them until we are comfortable enough to refer business back and forth. I cannot tell you how valuable you become when you do that. It takes some time and effort, but the rewards are there.

    • http://www.timsstrategy.com Tim

      Hey Rob – I hear those sentiments from a lot of people. That if a person is not ready to network in an authentic way, they will be found out and just won’t get the time of day. Bummer but I understand that reaction. When we have time, though, perhaps each of us can slow down and walk up to that someone and say: “Hey (name on name tag), here’s how it works. Wanna try that again?”

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  • http://timsstrategy.com/ TimsStrategy

    Good ones, Kathleen! Great reminders for everyone trying to be a champion networker!

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